Although my latest posts have been more about my vacation and the lost of the Baja I have been riding. There was just nothing special or interesting about the rides to post. This past Saturday Jeff had a ride to Lahaska from Washington crossing. I had not been in the hills for a few weeks so wanted decided to do the ride. I started with a few other people from the NJ side to get a few extra miles in.
Jeff didn't put any hard hills on the ride so it was an easy ride to Lahaska where we stopped for a break. Jeff tried a new shop for the stop but it was super crowded so a few of us went to another store. At that point I decided to head back to the start on my own. I had a memorial service I needed to be at in the early afternoon and didn't want to be late.
The memorial service was for a friend of ours, named Rich, who was one of the first people we met when we moved into our community just over four years ago. He was nice guy who helped us meet a lot of other people in the community and settle in. He became the core of our group and we had a lot of fun together. Because of him my wife now volunteers at a farm for rescue animals which she really enjoys.
Unfortunately about a year and a half ago Rich was diagnose with glioblastoma an incurable form of brain cancer. He died a few weeks ago which was sad because he was only 65. When we first met Rich we knew we found a good friend that we could hang out. He was a very easy going person and always willing to help us out when we needed something. We had hoped to have him in our lives for a long time so it strange that we will not see him again. We will be ever grateful that he connected us to the other people in the community that now form our group of friends. I will also be grateful for Rich introducing my wife to the rescue farm where she volunteers once a week. It's a place that makes her happy ever time she goes there. We are very happy for the joy that Rich brought into our lives and are sad that he left us so soon.
Rich's memorial service wasn't the only sad moment on Saturday. My mother-in-law also passed away in the early afternoon right before Rich's service. She was 97 years old and her health had really started failing her a couple months ago. She had lived in her house on her own until a couple of years ago when we had to get an aid to help her out. The aid was part time then a few months ago it was around the clock. A couple of weeks ago she was put on hospice care so we knew she didn't have much time left. At 97 her body was just worn out.
She and my father-in-law were good working class people. My father-in-law, who we lost 9 years ago, was a diamond setter in New York and my mother-in-law was a secretary at the local school in Paramus. They were the typical suburban couple who made friends with all their neighbors. The wife's got together for coffee when the kids went to school and the men got together to drink after work. When I met their daughter and were introduced to them they were nothing but kind. Once I married into the family I felt like part of it and had no problem getting along with them. I'm sad to see my mother-in-law go but she lived a full life. She was really starting to suffer for the past couple of months so her passing is really a blessing at this point that will give her some piece.
Friend and family dying is part of the things that we experience as part of our lives. These are sad moments that make us reflect on their lives and our own. These moments make us sad but they also make us realize and appreciate the people who have been a part of our lives.
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